Don’t underestimate your child’s inferiority complex
The so-called inferiority refers to a person’s serious lack of self-confidence. They often think that they are inferior to others in certain aspects or aspects. They often separate their weaknesses from others’ strengths. This is specifically reflected in the fact that they do not believe in their own abilities when they are in troubleAfter thinking about it before and after thinking about it, I was always afraid of being ridiculed for doing things wrong, and lacked perseverance, and flinched when encountering difficulties.
To be straightforward, that is, the self-evaluation is too low, and I look down on myself.
It is a personality defect, a state of unbalanced behavior.
Inferiority is often manifested in the form of a negative defense, such as jealousy, suspicion, shyness, loneliness, anger, self-deception, refusal to make friends, self-violence, self-abandonment, avoidance of competitive competition, and worry.
Inferiority makes people very sensitive and can not stand any stimulation.
If a child is shrouded in inferiority, his physical development and communication ability will be severely constrained, and his intelligence and intellect will not be exerted normally.
Yanyan is a sixth-grade female classmate. She has big talking eyes, yellow hair, and a little bit. She has a high grade, very stingy, introverted, unsmiling in front of people, and never takes the initiative in class.He raised his hand and fractured. When the teacher asked questions, he always looked down to answer, his voice was very low, and his face turned red.
Except for going to the toilet after class, she always sat quietly in her seat for a while, and the teacher told her to play with her classmates. She would smile at you barely, still sitting still.
I usually keep myself in the room and do not play with my classmates.
On holidays, her parents wanted to take her out to play with her friends, and she would n’t even go to her friends ‘home.
The above phenomenon may be reflected in many children, the reason is the “product” of inferiority.
However, this phenomenon of children is often not noticed by parents, even if some parents see it, they will feel that it is the character of the child, rather than realize it.
This is all wrong. If the child’s inferiority complex is not corrected and paid attention in time, it will form a child’s psychological disorder and affect the child’s healthy growth.
However, inferiority is not inherent, it is formed under the influence of external environment.
Inferiority is caused by the following reasons: First, the parents are extremely capable and have high expectations for their children, which often leads to inferiority.
Living in such a family environment, children always think that “my parents can do everything, I can’t compare with anything, and it’s useless to try hard.”
Parents with particularly strong abilities generally have high requirements for their children and pursue perfection, and children cannot do everything perfectly, so they will be accused by parents too much, making their children doubt their abilities.Gradually lose confidence and inferiority.
The second is that the family is incomplete and it is easy for children to have inferiority.
Children living in broken families do not get enough love from their parents and feel that they are children abandoned by society.
When I saw that other children could be with my parents, I was even more sad and felt inferior.
The third is rude and bossy education methods of parents.
Because parents cannot convince others with reason, they often adopt simple and rough stick education for their children, which seriously hurts their self-esteem and often causes them to have inferiority complexes.
The fourth is that parents have inferiority feelings, which can easily cause children to have inferiority.
Inferiority is a sentiment formed the day after tomorrow. If a parent always says “I can’t,” children will not only imitate their parents’ attitude toward life, they will think that “parents can’t do it, I can’t do it anymore.”
Therefore, this potential subtle influence of parents affects children.